Stop scolding your kids. We often hear parents telling their children that they are idiots, they know nothing, they are losers, cowards, etc. Just think for a moment what kind of message you are sending to your children if you are one of those parents who say things like that. Your children trust you, believe in everything you say and expect you to do what's good for them. This means they believe in most things that you say. Now, if you keep telling them that they will never be good at something, they are likely to believe you and stop even trying. And that's not what you want for your children, is it?